We humans struggle to find what we are looking for. We go about life, not knowing what we want, engaging in different relationships, trying to fulfill ourselves through the comfort we think we will find in the arms of others.The fear of facing one’s true self blocks a lot of people from spending time alone in order to heal and grow. This results in relationship after relationship where one finds that they are repeating the same patterns, face the same challenges and relive similar disappointments.
Why do we like being hurt so much?
Humans do not consciously attract hurt and pain. Love is deeply rooted in our nature. However, what can be described as a major “flaw” in our modern society is that we do not realise that we are the ones who need to change in order for other people to change how they view and treat us.
We are all mirrors of one another.
If I project insecurity, weakness and vulnerability in my character, this will usually lead to the attraction of unhealthy relationships. I will be constantly beaten down and kicked by abuse, and this cycle will never end unless I become conscious of it.
On the other hand, if I project strength and balance as a person, this will give me the power to attract helpful people who will provide me with growth. In the long run, I too can reciprocate the good they have to offer me in my life’s journey.
How can I become strong and balanced?
There are a lot of self help books out there and courses on strengthening the self. A and B can tell you how to do it. I can try too. Meditate, spiritual practice, yadayada I can go on forever. The truth is the power lies in you. Only YOU can make the change you seek. As simple as that. Sure, there are several pathways you can take and wonderful sources that provide you with valid information and helpful insight. However, there is no following the book in this process of self development. It is a long road ahead, with a lot of hard work. If you are not willing to become your own guru and make the effort to grow and evolve as an individual, no one will do the work for you.
Wait, you mean I can become my own healer?
This is a new age we are stepping into with the tremendous help from a lot of external sources that are beyond our human understanding. The energy of the earth is shifting to higher dimensions, giving us the ability to awaken to perhaps the highest stage in our our human evolution. Given that factor, there are a lot of people who have already done the work and made several changes in their own habits reflecting the old paradigm and can thus show the way. This does not necessarily mean that they are leaders or ahead of the game in any way, it is only a matter of timing. When one is ready, the change will happen. It is not a competition. Thus, group work is essential at this time. Having the ability to be flexible and open to experiencing what one feels comfortable with is key to helping oneself break patterns that are holding them back from further development.
How do I know what teachings or “group work” are right for me?
It is a matter of feeling rather than thinking. If you instinctively feel something is right for you, then simply go for it! Explore, that is what it is all about. Instead of procrastinating and doubting, allow yourself to plunge into the unknown and you will be surprised at how liberating the experience is. There are several healing modalities out there, just trust that your heart will guide you to the one that is meant to be. Rather than following one way, one method, one guru, be open to multiple sources to guide you to the change you seek. As you begin attracting health and balance into your body, this will also open up more and more helpful people, situations and circumstances. Life starts to truly become synchronistic and magical.
You make it sound so fairytale like and so easy. Can it be as simple as that?
Believe me, there are no prince charmings or princesses waiting to give you a pat on the back. This is a tough ride, challenging journey full of constant turns and shifts, temptations and pullbacks. We are truly spirit having a very physical experience, so we have to appreciate this reality and find the balance between the two. There are always helpers acting like guardian angels here on earth to help you, and so much help from the other side too. Several masters, like Jesus and Buddha walked the path and taught the path for us. We are now realising this potential even though it has taken us so many years and so many religious wars! We are one in the same, Inlakesh, I am another you. It is finally time to wake up and realise the power of these words. What so many of our ancestors have fought for and sacrificed themselves for in the past. Let’s not let all that work go to waste.
Reclaim your power and make the change.